Sister U Matter!

Recently in the news, we have heard of at least one famous person that has “fallen from grace” because their character flaws have been exposed. The so many that once praised the famous are now, one by one, “taking back their words” of support and praise.

I want to take advantage of this moment and remind us that we can all be both: be good, do good and there still be that one ‘but’. It’s the humanness of all of us--no one is perfect. Now, I am not suggesting that we ignore the imperfections of others but I am asking that we not rush to negatively judging the entire person based on their flaws.  I have to ask the question, “Aren’t we the same way?” For most of us, we have it together in multiple (if not most) areas of our lives but there’s at least one area, that one but, that is less managed. Now, I ask: Do you want your entire person judged by your “that one but”? Well, treat others accordingly.

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Well, I have really been struggling with an unresolved conflict. The person informed me, via a group email, that I and other members of the group had offended them. I have, on two separate occasions, asked how I offended so that I can be mindful of my actions and strive not to repeat them. However, the offended person has not responded. I am deeply saddened by all of this but I simply don’t know what else to do.

I am sharing this with you not to get sympathy but to encourage you to strive daily to get understanding with each other. It’s not enough to inform of the offense. This would be like only telling someone that there is a fire burning and then not do anything to extinguish (or get help to extinguish) the fire. If the fire is not extinguished, it will destroy everything in its path. 

Our ultimate goal, as sisters, should be to be at peace with each other and that includes resolving the conflicts that we have with each other. That’s what sisterhood is all about. We may not see eye-to-eye, like other’s actions or agree with another person all the time but we have to learn how to get along with each other in spite of our differences. (Hmm…what better way to live the Sister U Matter!® message.)

I read and hear about so many news stories where unresolved conflict escalates to levels that result in tension, strife, brokenness, violence and even sometimes death. Sisters, I’m telling you, that life is just too short to carry unresolved conflicts. Hey Sisters, with all of our getting, please let’s be sure to strive to get understanding.

Remember…Sister U Matter!®

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You know as women, we nurture and take care of everyone; everyone, that is, except ourselves. We generally pour so much (time, energy, money, compassion, forgiveness and grace) into everyone else around us that we have absolutely nothing left to give to ourselves. Today’s post is just a simple reminder: be intentional about loving you. Make it a priority. Be creative with how you love you. Schedule it. Give yourself permission to love you. No one can love you better than you can love you.

Remember…Sister U Matter!®

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Well, it’s football season again and our team (my son’s high school) lost its 1^st game this past weekend. This was a hard loss. It was hard because we were the better team but we still lost the game to an in town rival.

Have you ever suffered a hard loss in your life? No promotion although you were the more qualified applicant? The sudden death of a “healthy” loved one? A job loss due to no fault of your own? A close relationship that ended with no reasonable explanation? A chronic disease diagnosis with no known cure? I’m sure there are many others that you can identify with.

So what do you do after a hard loss? You use it to motivate you to keep moving forward or step up (remember last week's post-smile). Don’t get stuck focusing on the loss instead search for what you gained from the loss. Gather the good from it and use the experience to make you better as you move forward or even up. I’m willing to bet that what you gain in the next “game” will be far better than the loss of the previous one.

Remember…Sister U Matter!®

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I’m reminded of a story of a mule that fell into a deep pit. The town’s people observed the situation and decided that there was no way possible to help the mule out of the pit. So they began to throw dirt into the pit to cover the mule for its burial. (They assumed that the mule would die in the pit.) Well, lo and behold, the mule began to step up on the dirt and eventually stepped up out of the pit.

What am I saying? Step up. Sometimes we may find ourselves in situations where we can’t move forward; all we can do is step up. When unfavorable situations come at us and attempts to bury us under its “dirt”, just step up. You see unlike moving forward, a step up takes us higher; it elevates us. By the time the situation is over, we will find ourselves elevated on so many levels because we chose to step up.

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